Never?
You know what I absolutely hate?
People who say that long distance relationships never work. I would like to stress on the word never as it is a very harsh word that takes a ton of baggage with it.
First of all, you cannot use the word "never" lightly. Doing so just means that something is impossible and has not been proven to happen in the history of the universe. Never is saying not ever. Not on any occasion. At no time at all will be achievable. Impossible. Beyond imagination. Completely preposterous. Being the naive optimist that I am, there are certain things that ARE possible, the LDR being one of them.
Secondly, if you’ve NEVER (there is a valid reason I am using this one now) been in a long distance relationship, then you cannot blurt out that statement in a snap of a finger. If you’ve never been in a long distance relationship, you won’t be able to realize what it’s like to be in one and how, in fact, it is possible for it to survive the test of time and distance. That’s just like criticizing a movie you haven’t seen, or saying the Eiffel Tower is the most beautiful infrastructure when you haven’t been to Paris. Get the drift? You don’t have the permission to utter such assertion.
Let’s say that you have tried the so-called Long Distance Relationship, and did fail miserably (ok, scratch out the miserably part if you will), that still doesn’t give you the jurisdiction to pound your fist and indignantly say "it never works." So it’s a matter of opinion, sure, but making it sound like it’s well-proven and make this absurd generalization over the entire kingdom of love-stricken individuals is total baloney.
I’m not just ranting like a lovesick puppy, mind you. Perhaps being in an LDR adds to the feeling of contempt I may hold towards these moronic conclusions and their cynical masterminds, but it isn’t like that.
Because should, heaven forbid, my long distance relationship abruptly end *knock furiously on wood*, I still wouldn’t chant they don’t work. I dare you to mark my word. I know several couples who made it work, many married, another planning a wedding. So take that!
I believe that for one to work though, there should already be a relationship to begin with. Not just some random "he’s over there and I’m over here" kind’a thing. If ever that did happen, it would take a lot of time AND money to make it work. Granted, every relationship needs time, which is the point exactly. Maintaining a long distance relationship isn’t easy. It’s not a walk in the park on a beautiful spring day. It takes a whole lot of work and commitment.
It really has a lot to do with the reason as to why these failed long distance relationships of yesteryear went down the drain, too. Was it unfaithfulness? Deception? Trickery? Did they simply just lose interest in each other? Did one get tired of waiting around? Did they just decide to move on with their seperate lives and get a new love interest? These are simple facts that might have caused just ANY relationship to backfire, not just those seperated by oceans of massive acres of land.
So before you go all out and scream to the top of your lungs about LDRs never working, pause for a second and think if you have the authority to say so.
